Four score and 10 years ago today, I witnessed the biggest event to date in my best friends life: her marriage to Clayton. Up to that point our life had been simple, easy, impulsive. To watch as she vowed to honor and cherish her future husband was both humbling and confusing – how were we old enough to be entering into this sacred bond of marriage? (yes, we because all for one and one for all) How amazing it was to stand by her with unconditional love and support on her wedding day!
So here we are, 10 years later, surviving this fun journey that is life and not a lot has changed. She’s still my best friend, my go to for advice on all things, and the person who continues to amaze me with her handle on reality. She is the mother of my three beautiful nephews, and man oh man does she make beautiful babies. She is a wonderful example of unconditional love and support through all things life throw at us. I’m proud that she’s on my side, my best friend, and the person I want to be when I grow up.
She posted this on FB this week and I personally learned from it, so of course I wanted to share with you. Since Kenneth and I are on the brink of our first anniversary, these life lessons from veterans like Kristin are encouraging and cherished.
Kristin Wade Dysart’s 5 Things I’ve Learned in 10 Years of Marriage
With our anniversary just a week away, I thought I should share some wisdom.
5. Buy Glad Plastic Wrap
Just do it… what extra amount you spend over the store brand, you will save in arguments. Men want name brand plastic wrap that actually sticks to the side of the bowl. I’m still waiting for it to magically get men to help clean up in the kitchen…
4. Play Poker
Yes! Learn to gamble. I’m a good preacher’s kid, so of course, I know how to play. Knowing the rules of the game will make for fun times and great debate practice.
3. Roku is a Third Wheel
Have plans to go out? Not if Roku has anything to say about it. It’s the passive aggressive third wheel that lures you to Netflix and Amazon Prime instead of your original date plans.
2. Make Potatoes
Potatoes are incredibly diverse, and conveniently cheap. To borrow from Pippin of The Lord of the Rings, you can “boil them, mash them, stick em in a stew”. Learn to cook them. Learn to like them.
1. Be the Local Crazy- Talk to Yourself
It is essential to talk to yourself. Preferably in your head, but if anything slips out- make sure it is no louder than a mouse picking up a cheese crumb. Sometimes what you want to say shouldn’t be said. At least not at that moment. Ask me how I know. 😉 Just remember, it’s better to be the local crazy than the village idiot.
Plastic Wrap, Poker, Roku, Potatoes, and Talk to yourself. So, yup, that about sums it up. That’s my marriage advice. Next time I go to a wedding, I’m listing this in the newlywed advice column.
Can you see why I love her? Happy Anniversary you crazy kids! Thank you for letting me be part of your big day 10 years ago, and every step along the way.